“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but WORDS will never hurt me.” Possibly one of the most quoted nursery rhymes (if you want to call it that), that parents use for advice during times where words have hurt their children. If we are honest with ourselves, this is one of the greatest lies that have ever been told. Words can hurt!

Words can make or break us. Words can hurt us or heal us. Words can cause great solution or cause great problems. As scripture says, words are blessings and cursing. Why? Because so many people have trouble controlling their words. James informs us that humans have been capable of taming every beast, reptile, bird, and even sea creatures but NO ONE can tame the tongue. (James 3:7-8)

So how do I get better at this? In James chapter 1, James informs us that if anyone lacks wisdom, you should ask it of God who gives generously. One way that we can learn to control our tongue is to ask God for wisdom. We need to be wise in our thoughts so that we can be wise in our words. As James earlier would say, “We must be quick to hear and slow to speak.” Before we open our mouths, maybe we should stop, and ask ourselves, “Is it wise that I say this?”

This week I want to challenge you to spend more time listening and less time talking.

~ Eric